My grief memoir

Debbie and I

Debbie and I

I have really struggled to write a blog about my sister’s death, my grieving, and the memoir I am currently writing.  I know part of the challenge is where to start.  Do I begin by listing the facts, like an obituary notice? Or do I begin by writing about the “phone call”?Receiving the dreaded phone call seems like a blog posting in of itself. I can say I received a phone call in February, 2013 that my younger sister had been found dead. She had died in her sleep. It was later ruled an accidental overdose, for a medication she was taking had a slightly higher than normal amount. She was only 43 and left behind a husband and two sons.

I found out about her death the next morning when my parents made “the phone call.” Like any family member who has lost their loved ones, I was an emotional basket case. I was catapulted into a new reality. Like the Matrix, I felt that there was part of me living in one dimension and the other part living in a different dimension. My grief is no worse than someone else’s pain, yet my grief was and is complicated.  We came from a dysfunctional childhood with  alcoholism, domestic violence, and incest. But, and a big BUT, the hope and healing through Jesus Christ that I experienced 20+ years ago continues to guide me through a maze of emotions and memories.

My hope and prayer is that others who have had complicated childhoods and/or catapulted prematurely down a grief journey will be encouraged by my grief experience.

“The Lord is a refuge and a fortress” Psalm 91:1

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@carriedameron

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2 thoughts on “My grief memoir

  1. cowgirlsuz says:

    You are using your own experience with this horrific loss to help others. That is service of the highest order. Praying that God will use your memoir in mighty ways.

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